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The Homecoming Kiss by Yolonda D. Coleman
A Coffeedreamz Experience Presents "The Homecoming Kiss" by Yolonda D. Coleman
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Chapter 1: Breathing in Autumn
Monday, December 25, 2023
An Excerpt from Chicken and Dumplings: Life is Meant to be Savored
Geesh...the one thing that identified me in a crowd was cramping my style. I hid my hair loss behind wigs, wraps, and Kanekalon ponytails in public while feeling ashamed and embarrassed in private. There were silent tears, embarrassing moments, and times I hated looking at myself in the mirror. I can say now that I had some depressing moments, but my miracle child always affirmed me each morning.
"Mommy, you look like a princess. You're the most beautiful mommy in the world," he would say with innocent fawn eyes. His unconditional love pushed me out of my sadness; and when the band stopped playing at my pity party, I started to educate myself on natural ways to stimulate hair growth with essential oils and black soap shampoo. I took vitamin supplements as well as Dr. Melanye Maclin's Bellanurti products to work from the inside out. I shared my journey with my online sister-circle; and they secretly raised money for my new path to a healthier scalp. Once I had all my tools, I called my kitchen "The Lab". It's not just for cooking; it is for all kinds of creations that inspire joy. I began creating my own products for my hair and my skin. When the pandemic hit, I started growing some of my ingredients as well.
I am excited about all the things I've gained even through my losses. Freedom and peace are my currency. My hair did in fact grow back after having Sisterlocks installed. It is not the same mane as it once was, but it is what I am proud to call my own. I'm growing into a new woman with an edge that needs no baby hairs. The new antennas attached to my head make me alert as I pick up wavelengths that add to my life rather than tear away at my spirit. This time, I'm not going to just ride shotgun; I'm going to sit in the driver's seat when I see fit. This next chapter will be a nice ride.
How will you grow in your next season? Please share. I want to know as you grow.
Love you! Mean it!
Yolonda Denise
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Thursday, November 9, 2023
The Black Hole: Swim Your Way to the Truth by Yolonda D. Coleman (2023).
How could I be "fine" and drowning all at the same time. Since my biological parents died, I swam through a black hole that choked the life out of me while searching for my truth. As much as I felt elevated, I was breathing through tiny holes of life's shrink wrap. Slowly things I loved were taken from me; I learned that nothing is sealed tight--family, physical beauty, talent; they could vanish like follicles falling from the crown of our heads. I was once fierce and unafraid walking through alleyways in the middle of the night in D.C. to get home. However, the more I lived, the more I began to take on the fears and insecurities of others that I became unrecognizable--even to myself. In my mind, I was the crust of the world, and my shine was being buffed away like muted tones of a brass band. I stopped living out loud. I was burrowed.
It's time to fly as we all remember who, whose, and WHAT we are while refusing to believe someone else's version of us. Let's get it done!
Sunday, November 14, 2021
Archived Stories with a Present Twist: Chasing Rainbows
Captured at Pinefield Park in Waldorf, MD on in 2008. |
another inch in the traffic.
No sooner than I crossed my county line the rain stopped. To my left, just before reaching a Wa Wa convenience store, I noticed colored patches arching through the sky.
"No way! Could it be?" I asked myself while turning down the radio as if silence would bring about an answer. Strangely enough, it did.
I closed my eyes and rolled them around to adjust my contact lenses, to make my vision more clear. I did in fact see two rainbows.
Ever ready, I quickly grabbed my camera out of my purse. Click! Click! Click! I got a shot of them, but I wasn't satisfied. The rainbows continued posing in the sky as I made a left turn into a neighborhood I had passed so many times before but completely ignored---until this day.
I snapped again. This time, I was caught in action. The passengers in the car next to me saw what I was capturing and decided to take a picture of the rainbows too. They wanted memories in color.
I pulled over as I was in the way of passersby who mechanically followed the road to their homes, to their driveways, to a life that was so routine that somewhere along the line, they stopped dreaming. The steering wheel of their cars often felt the pressure of their hands on ten and two because that’s what they believed was the only way to drive through life. My detour home proved one thing.
Click! Click! Click! There was a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Instead of a Leprechaun waiting for me, I was the one holding the pot...and tasting the rainbow of my dreams. No matter how many days pass in my adult life, I have to remember to dream. I have to remember to sip the different flavors of life. I have to create a way for my heart’s desires to show the rest of the world that through the rain, through the storms, there’s always something more colorful than darkness.
Here's what I know for sure. At the time I saw the double rainbow, I was single and I did not have a child. Eleven years I watched our son play on that same field where the rainbows made their appearance.
Dreams keep us alive. Like those refracted and reflected lights from the sun, we should all be parading in our colorful dreams so others can see the possibilities of those things that seem impossible. Let your light shine in all colors! Take a detour and follow your rainbow. Follow your dreams.
Hugs and smiles,
Sips with love,
Ms. Coffeedreamz #coffeedreamz38 www.yolondacoleman.com FOLLOW ME: Instagram @coffeedreamz38
Monday, January 18, 2021
It Was Always Good to Come Home.
Kenny shares a smile with a former Banneker student on summer break (2019). |
I am convinced there is a formula for success--pray and collect or reject energies. Oh yeah, and go where people know your name. As I enter nearly 27 years as a Banneker alumna, I also celebrate the community involvement that the Howard Deli provided over the years--33 of them I can account for. Due to the pandemic, it has closed its doors, but it's legacy will live on in the hearts of patrons forever.
The Howard Deli, or what my classmates and I called "Kenny's" was a place where we started the day
with a warm blueberry muffin that blanketed the anointed butter that slept in the middle of it or a warm bagel with generous portion of cream cheese. It was also our go to spot for lunch. Even when the District of Columbia Public Schools (DCPS) eliminated "off-campus" lunch in 1992 due to senseless violence, Kenny, "Pepi" and Frankie Diaz immediately developed a plan to feed our need for made-to-order sandwiches. Before Uber Eats, before Door Dash, before Grub Hub, we had Howard Deli--pay for our order before 9:05 a.m. and have it delivered at lunch time. It was a plan that worked.
More important than feeding our teenage bellies was the consistent support Kenny and his brother Pepi provided the students at Banneker. They were our community advocates. While celebrities stopped by and offered autographed pictures to be placed on the walls of the deli, the real stars were the students whose names, year after year, were listed as they achieved a milestone--acceptance and matriculation at a college or university. At Howard Deli, we soon realized that we were more than a paying customer. We were part of an extended network that kept rooting for us. It was a home that nurtured our dreams and ambitions with smiles, listening ears, and a big 'ole hug either when entered the door and as we departed.
Want to know what community should look like, see the model that made a difference in the lives of the students at the neighborhood school where 96% of the students are African American, Latinx, or Asian. No one ever feared judgement. No one ever felt anxious. Everyone felt validated, encouraged, and loved. It was always good to come home even after the ink had dried many years after graduation. At the Howard Deli, we were ALWAYS family. It is a place where our aspirations were shared and celebrated and our names were NEVER forgotten.
Thank you, Kenny, Pepi, and Frankie Diaz, for your service to the community that will never forget your names.
Friday, August 16, 2019
From the Archives: My Dreams Stand on Your Shoulders: A Tribute to Langston Hughes
I fell in love with you when I was 12 and introduced to you by name as a voice in the Harlem Renaissance. My uncle Que and Aunt Sue gave me my first type writer, and I pecked away. You were on roster as I took my classes. I was overwhelmingly pacified by Zora when I was 13 as her Eyes Were Watching God, but even Janie's story wasn't the end of my love affair with you. I kept digging for the heart of your existence. The same family pair pushed me toward you in this arranged literary marriage with a gift to strengthen my ties to you.
I fell in love with you when I was 21 and crossed the sands of Delta. It was clear we were connected. We now had Coleman Love in common. My engagement ring of thoughts were peaked. It was at 22 Aunt Sue further invested in me and put me in a position to get closer and closer to you. I was given a hand-crafted desk so I could begin to write...like you...see my dreams unfold. It was when I volunteered with Jeree at the same hotel where you were discovered that you baptized me with your essence.
In 2001, the Dream could no longer be deferred. I married you and began to build a family of children with you with recitations of Harlem, while introducing them to Lorraine, and making songs about your friends in the 1920s. It was during this time, God sent two darlings, Rachel and Rachelle who spoke clearly of what you taught me. They told me to stop teaching and write my book. Thus, the Sugar Rush series was conceived. They spoke your truth. They are our children.
In years later, you continued to be married to my fingertips, my heart, mind, and soul. You showed up on my realtor's book shelf when I was 26. I met the Tingling-Clemmons family and saw the Big Sea in their collection. I met their son who was named after you. I cannot deny you, I will simply love all that you have been in the world and unselfishly share you. In 2019, I wrote a poem to welcome a prince who will one day be king. He has your name. You continue to live on and I can't let your memory go.
You are my literary love. You are the Director of Dreams. You are Langston Hughes, the voice, the face, the heartbeat of my fingertips.
Always and forever yours,
Yolonda
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